For my Family Foundations class, we were asked to start a blog and write about some of the things we learn. I am really excited for this class and to get back into the swing of blogging. I am hoping that some of the things I talk about can have an impact on you as much as they have on me. I am excited to learn new things about marriage and about families. It's going to be a really neat experience!
January 18, 2013
I have been so surprised at the amount of people who don't care about the family unit anymore. It really breaks my heart to see people give up on the idea of a traditional happy family. People try to justify their idea of a family by living together and not getting married. I see so many problems arise in those situations. The thing is, less and less people are fighting for the true family unit that we have known our whole lives. The change in the world has had a devastating affect on what it really means to be a family. The divorce rate is up, families are being broken without a care for the affect that it has on a child. People are giving up hope that a family can really work. One thing that I do know is that the future is so important. I want to always be an example to my children of what a family really is. As hard as it may be, keeping a family together is so important for children. When parents get a divorce, they often don't realize the toll it takes on their children; one that carries out through the rest of their lives. I have high hopes that people will start to realize that these broken families aren't working. No matter what, I will continue to be an example.
January 24, 2013
This week we talked a lot about family rules in class. I thought it was interesting to see how everyone had many similar rules, but also many different rules. It made me think back to when I lived at home and what my rules were. Growing up, I had a lot of strict rules. It seemed hard to follow, especially since some of them to me were pointless. But as I grew up, I noticed my parents seemed to shift on their rules. We still had rules and gospel principles that we lived by, but things just got so much easier, and it made it so much more fun to be around my mom and dad. It is interesting to see that the more unnecessary rules you give children, the more they want to rebel and the less they want anything to do with a parent. I learned that personally, and I am excited to be able to apply what I have learned since with my future family because I have experienced both.
January 31, 2013
I loved having the opportunity to watch videos on social class. I really think that social class wouldn't even have to be real if we as people didn't make it up to be that way. Unfortunately, we live in a world where we are defined by the things we have. It's funny, because we see someone, and if they look classy or have nice things, we automatically assume that they have a lot of money. When we see someone that is scruffy or seems out of place appearance wise, we assume that they have no money. But often times there are people who go into extreme debt to appear as though they have money. Others save their money, and we never even know it.
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February 7, 2013
I had the chance this week to learn about same sex attraction. This is a tough subject to touch up on, and it often is one that can ruin relationships. This has become a huge deal in our world today, and it is threatening the traditional idea of the family. I have a hard time not getting opinionated about this, even though I know people who are attracted to the same sex, and I have friends that have tried to get me to see their side and agree. I love everyone, and I know that we all have different challenges and trials. With that being said, I do not believe that the definition of the family should be changed. I have such a strong testimony of the family. But I am always willing to be there for anyone. I don't think that just because someone is attracted to the same sex that we should just exclude them from our lives and judge them. Because that is anything but Christ like. It is so important to love them anyway and be the best examples we can be.
February 16, 2013
This week we learned a lot about dating. It was really interesting for me to see common patterns in dating, and what it actually means to go on a "date", and how important dating really is in a relationship, and even in a marriage. What I learned to find out if something was considered a real date are called the 3P's. Planned, Paid for, and Paired off. A lot of trends that have been seen lately in the world are people who aren't getting married. That is partly because people don't let themselves have the opportunity to date. In fact, most women prefer to get an education so that if anything happened to her husband, she would have something to fall back on. What I learned about that is that it is so important to date and not let opportunities pass you by, because marriage is the most important thing, because it is required to fulfill the role as the family in the plan of happiness.
February 23, 2013
What caught my attention most in the lesson this week is the fact that the marriage rates are declining, and people are thinking that it is less and less important to get married. Here are some things that were pointed out when this question was asked:
Why do some people not marry?
February 7, 2013
I had the chance this week to learn about same sex attraction. This is a tough subject to touch up on, and it often is one that can ruin relationships. This has become a huge deal in our world today, and it is threatening the traditional idea of the family. I have a hard time not getting opinionated about this, even though I know people who are attracted to the same sex, and I have friends that have tried to get me to see their side and agree. I love everyone, and I know that we all have different challenges and trials. With that being said, I do not believe that the definition of the family should be changed. I have such a strong testimony of the family. But I am always willing to be there for anyone. I don't think that just because someone is attracted to the same sex that we should just exclude them from our lives and judge them. Because that is anything but Christ like. It is so important to love them anyway and be the best examples we can be.
February 16, 2013
This week we learned a lot about dating. It was really interesting for me to see common patterns in dating, and what it actually means to go on a "date", and how important dating really is in a relationship, and even in a marriage. What I learned to find out if something was considered a real date are called the 3P's. Planned, Paid for, and Paired off. A lot of trends that have been seen lately in the world are people who aren't getting married. That is partly because people don't let themselves have the opportunity to date. In fact, most women prefer to get an education so that if anything happened to her husband, she would have something to fall back on. What I learned about that is that it is so important to date and not let opportunities pass you by, because marriage is the most important thing, because it is required to fulfill the role as the family in the plan of happiness.
February 23, 2013
What caught my attention most in the lesson this week is the fact that the marriage rates are declining, and people are thinking that it is less and less important to get married. Here are some things that were pointed out when this question was asked:
Why do some people not marry?
- They don't make it a priority, so they miss out on opportunities
- Men feel that women have a certain role to play, but women want to be successful in their careers
- Everyone is waiting until they are financially stable
These things really stood out to me this week, and I hope to be able to apply what I have learned in my own dating life.
Friday 28, 2013
This week I had the chance to learn about sexual intimacy, and the different ways it affects men and women. It was interesting to see how these differences could really challenge a marriage, but it also had ways that it could hugely benefit a marriage. The biggest key is to communicate with each other about your likes and dislikes, and make sure that you both are comfortable and that it is enjoyable for both of you. That makes for the most successful sexual experience for both of you. It is important to sacrifice for each other sometimes, because if you are always giving, it makes for the best receiving as well.
March 7, 2013
What stood out to me most this lesson was our discussion board on family crisis. It really opened my eyes and made me realize that I am not the only one who has these (Thank goodness!). It really intrigued me to see that everyone has problems come up in the family unit. It is important to try to learn and grow from those experiences. I love my family, but I have had many of those ups and downs. I really like that we have the opportunity to share them with each other as a class and that it gives us the chance to feed off of each others experiences and learn and grow from those and apply them into our own situations.
March 14, 2013
This week we talked about how to hold proper family discussions, and how the brethren go about making important decisions regarding the church, and its members. There is a certain process that they go through, and I really like it, because I have personally tried it within my own home, and with my roommates, and it truly is the most peaceful way to make decsions.
March 28, 2013
In our last class we talked about the importance of parenting, and purposes and challenges of it as well. Parenting is a way for us to become like our Father in Heaven. It is such an amazing opportunity for us, and I feel as though we are so blessed that the Lord trusts us enough to take care of his children, and raise them in the gospel. It makes the whole meaning of the family unit that much more special, especially when you get to raise children with someone that you love, and want to spend the rest of your life with. Though parenting can be a challenge, it can also be such a blessing.
April 4, 2013
This week we talked about the how step families and blended families work together, and the importance of making sure that they eventually do work. An interesting thing that I did learn is that divorce is harder on boys. We decided that the reason for this is because they tend to hold their emotions in, and they feel as though they are failing at their rule as a "man". It is so important that when you are the step parent that you give yourself the first two years to get to know the children and become close with them. The birth parent needs to be in charge of discipline and the step parent needs to act more like an uncle or aunt.
Friday 28, 2013
This week I had the chance to learn about sexual intimacy, and the different ways it affects men and women. It was interesting to see how these differences could really challenge a marriage, but it also had ways that it could hugely benefit a marriage. The biggest key is to communicate with each other about your likes and dislikes, and make sure that you both are comfortable and that it is enjoyable for both of you. That makes for the most successful sexual experience for both of you. It is important to sacrifice for each other sometimes, because if you are always giving, it makes for the best receiving as well.
March 7, 2013
What stood out to me most this lesson was our discussion board on family crisis. It really opened my eyes and made me realize that I am not the only one who has these (Thank goodness!). It really intrigued me to see that everyone has problems come up in the family unit. It is important to try to learn and grow from those experiences. I love my family, but I have had many of those ups and downs. I really like that we have the opportunity to share them with each other as a class and that it gives us the chance to feed off of each others experiences and learn and grow from those and apply them into our own situations.
March 14, 2013
This week we talked about how to hold proper family discussions, and how the brethren go about making important decisions regarding the church, and its members. There is a certain process that they go through, and I really like it, because I have personally tried it within my own home, and with my roommates, and it truly is the most peaceful way to make decsions.
- They meet on Thursdays
- They meet inside the temple
- They ask each other how everyone is doing, talk about concerns
- They open with a prayer
- They then discuss the issue or issues at hand and come to an agreement
- They end with a prayer
- They have refreshments
March 28, 2013
In our last class we talked about the importance of parenting, and purposes and challenges of it as well. Parenting is a way for us to become like our Father in Heaven. It is such an amazing opportunity for us, and I feel as though we are so blessed that the Lord trusts us enough to take care of his children, and raise them in the gospel. It makes the whole meaning of the family unit that much more special, especially when you get to raise children with someone that you love, and want to spend the rest of your life with. Though parenting can be a challenge, it can also be such a blessing.
April 4, 2013
This week we talked about the how step families and blended families work together, and the importance of making sure that they eventually do work. An interesting thing that I did learn is that divorce is harder on boys. We decided that the reason for this is because they tend to hold their emotions in, and they feel as though they are failing at their rule as a "man". It is so important that when you are the step parent that you give yourself the first two years to get to know the children and become close with them. The birth parent needs to be in charge of discipline and the step parent needs to act more like an uncle or aunt.
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